What truly makes a successful child?
My Story
I am a 66-year-old widow, retired after a long teaching career. My only son Raju, now 42, lives in England. When my husband died, I was 36 and Raju was 12. I never remarried, dedicating my entire life to my son's success.
Two Mothers, Two Approaches
My Son Raju
- Always first in class
- Best schools and universities
- Higher education in England
- Successful career abroad
- Limited social interactions
Laboni's Son Akash
- Average student
- Loved sports and arts
- Ordinary college
- Successful business owner
- Close relationship with mother
The Eye-Opening Shopping Trip
I watched Akash shopping with his mother Laboni. He patiently helped her choose clothes, bought her comfortable sandals without her worrying about price, and even purchased sunglasses for their beach trip.
"Mom, why do you see the price? You'll just see if you're comfortable?"
"Auntie, I'm always free for you."
The Painful Truth
"I am a failed mother, who made her son the most successful and bigger, that she will never reach that son again!"
My son Raju is too busy for me. He gets angry if I call without permission. He's married with a daughter I've never met. They keep postponing visits, and now they're going to America with his mother-in-law instead of visiting me.
What I Realized Too Late
"I just taught my son to be first in exam and job market. Be the best person I have never taught."
❌ I taught competition
❌ I never taught compassion
❌ I never taught family values
❌ I never taught him to care for others
My New Beginning
I've decided to go to Cox's Bazar with Laboni and Akash. From now on, I'll focus on my own happiness. I want to see the Himalayas and the Pyramids of Egypt. How many more days will I live? It's time to fulfill my own dreams.
"From now on I will think about my good or bad. My thoughts about my son are over."
Lessons for Parents
💖 Balance Academics & Values
Good grades matter, but good character matters more
🤝 Teach Relationships
Success means nothing without meaningful connections
🌱 Nurture Empathy
Teach children to care for others, especially family
A Mother's Final Words
True success isn't measured by academic achievements or career accomplishments alone. The most successful child is the one who remembers where they came from and who loves and cares for their parents.
"Don't just raise successful professionals - raise good human beings who know the value of family."
(Based on a true story)
